As you know from my previous post (boy date), once a month each boy gets to have a special date all by himself with either me, my husband or their Auntie. This month my sister had a friend visiting with her two boys who are the same age as Primo and Segundo, so they both went over to Auntie’s for a slumber party, and we had just Trevino at home. I think this is the first time in his life that he has had both mom and dad all to himself for more than just a few hours. As soon as he walked in the door after going with his dad to drop off his big brothers, Trevino started giving orders. Most of them involved all the things he wanted his dad to do with him; wrestling, building rocket ships and some sort of spy game. After a while the three of us climbed into our bed, snuggled up, and turned on a movie. Trevino was only half interested in the movie and half interested in talking to us and telling us he loved us and saying over and over again how it was “just the three of us.” Later when we were out to dinner, Trevino proceeded to drop my husband’s iPod Touch (always with us when we eat out with the 4-year-old) into a tiny gap between the wall and the bench where he was sitting. It wasn’t for several more days and after several attempts that the restaurant was able to get it out. Luckily they didn’t have to disassemble the booth.
The next morning the three of us hung out for a while before going to meet my sister to pick up the big boys. We did puzzles, drew pictures and ate snacks. Nothing earth shattering but it was a quiet time where we could focus on just him. To talk about whatever he wanted to talk about. To play whatever he wanted to play.
One of the things that I like so much about these boy dates is having an extended amount of time to see the boys as individuals. To watch them, notice them and interact with just the one boy. Normally they are “the boys.” A unit. We parent them all as individuals but we do it simultaneously. We don’t often have the opportunity to observe just one of them for more than a minute before our attention is pulled away. These dates provide a golden opportunity to do that.